Are there any other spouses out there to talk to?
There seems to be no support for spouses if those who are looking to transition. Or no one is talking about it. My husband is thinking of transitioning and I am having a hard time understanding and dealing with it. I have absolutely no one to talk to either. At this time this is all he ever talks about. I have a very hard time discussing my feelings and explaining why I feel like I do nor do I want to be attacked for my feelings. I'd like to talk to other spouses who have been through this.
Hi Magee (or ...?)
My name is Ruby, otherwise known as Martha. I am married to a transitioning transsexual. We were husband and wife for 21 years and now we are wife and wife. I know what you mean about having no one to talk to! There are few of us who stick around. One web site that I have found helpful is transpouse@yahoo.com from Cleveland. I'm not sure I have the name exactly right, but you can probably find it. It is a group of mostly supportive spouses who post nearly daily. Many are having a hard time. Some have made peace. I also know what you mean when you say it is all he ever talks about. That is how it was for me when my mate was just coming out. It was nearly unbearable. There are a lot of good books that can really help you to understand what your husband is going through. Have you read any yet? I resisted reading for years but when I finally did, it really helped. I would be happy to correspond with you for awhile if you like. My email is wendts@telus.net. I share my email with my spouse, Chelsea Rose. Peace be with you. Kindest regards,
Martha Ruby
I know that perhaps it might seem real lonely for you, looking for the person or persons that you are looking for, at this time, to simply talk to --- in the matter(s) that you wish to talk about, magee2!...
Let me introduce myself to you... I am Karen Lynn Bacon of West Seattle, Washington USA. ...Well, OK, my legal name at this time in my life is Keith Vincent Bacon (...My man's name, UNFORTUNATELY!) I have been a M-F (male-to-female) transgender person for ALL of my life!!! In the past, I was married (as a man, to a woman) and my x-wife, she and I are basically divorced today because, when she and I were (legally) married to each other, she just COULD NOT "handle" or othwerwise "deal with" the fact that I was (and am) a transgender person! ...Anyway, that x-wife of mine, she IS basically a so-called "straight" lady... (She ALMOST "runs" Snohomish County, Washington immediately to the north of us, here, in King County, Washington... (The county seat of Snohomish County, WA is Everett, Washington.) ...My x-wife, she is originally from Bellingham, Washington --- up in Whatcom County, WA... ...She is in the Snohomish County Prosecutor's Office somehow (I'm not exactly sure just how, specifically) and she (almost) "runs" the Snohomish County Sheriff's Office, I am told... I haven't actually seen or talked to this x-wife of mine since the very early 1980's (we were divorced at Bellingham, Washington on July 22, 1979 --- that's when our divorce from each other was actually final there, in the Whatcom County Family Courts...) ...She WON'T talk to me AT ALL --- simply because I am a transgender person in this life that we ALL share in!... ...I DO have a now-32-year-old daughter, Melanie Lorraine, by this x-wife of mine. (Melanie has absolutely nothing to do with me, today, either.) ...Anyway, magee2, my friend, perhaps, somehow, I could tell you or otherwise explain to you all that is involved in this lifelong transgenderism "thing" --- with me, anyway!!!... In the event that I MIGHT perhaps be able to be of any help or comfort to you AT ALL --- PLEASE DO FEEL ABSOLUTELY FREE to get ahold of me on this ingersollgendercenter.org website, ANYTIME THAT YOU WISH!!!
--Most respectfully and sincerely yours, m'lady,
Karen Lynn of West Seattle, Washington USA
Follow me on facebook --- I am under my legal mane there,
again, Keith Vincent Bacon.
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